Not all of us lose our v!rginity at age 16 in the back of an old Camry.If you’re still a virgin later in life, it can feel like you’re the last person on earth who hasn’t had s3x, but you aren’t alone. Whether you’re waiting for your wedding or just haven’t found the right person, here’s what you should know about losing your virginity as an adult.
1. Losing your virg!nity isn’t just P in the V.
“Theres no universal consensus on what behaviors constitute having s3x,” relationship and sex expert Kristen Mark, Ph.D., tells BuzzFeed Life. Not to mention, the notion of “‘virginit’y’ is very heterocentric. It really excludes a large number of people who may consider themselves as having lost their virginit’y, but that definition is going to be very different for them.” So losing your v card might involve penetration, or it might involve anal s3x, or@l s3x, manual stimulation, dildos, whatever. There’s no rule that your first time has to meet a specific set of criteria.